The Night

Anybody who has grown up in India, or watched our Bolly, Tolly, Kolly - Wood (or whichever “wood” you belong to) movies, knows about the much hyped “First Night”. If you “STILL” act like you don’t know what it is, it is the night a married couple, even if they have known each other only for a few days, consummate their day old marriage.

More so our marriages are very well known for their lengthy procedures and rituals. These rituals have taken a new avatar along with the time; backed with “Wood” guys playing around with it, every one wants these to make it more and more special in their own way. It is quite obvious that you are not expecting me to go all the way in telling how my night went about like….but will let you some insight of what happened a couple of years ago (eee I was a bachelor back then :) )

Few years back I was invited to a Bachelor Party of some old friends office colleague (henceforth known as X), as he was getting married in next few days. We had a good mix of married and bachelors in there and it was raining drinks all around. For one, I never got the clear understanding of a bachelor party and the concept was still new to me and I guess cracking jokes about “first night” is customary in these places. Few rounds of drinks and one Mr. A ask’s this question to the host.

A: So what are you doing on that day?
X: Sir you need to come there to see it yourself, we have lot of puja’s to be done and …. (Like good boy he goes on explain about the activities that are taking place on the marriage day)
Mean while our A gets pissed off and shouts back saying:
A: Oey I am not asking about your marriage day ….tell me what you are doing on your first night?

As expected everybody laughs it out and the discussion goes on, our X for some time, for me, sounded more like wanting to strike a good first impression and not having a clue how to go about it. But I guess all the while he was distributing a humor license to all at his own expense. Over here both the married ones and the bachelors in the party play out their parts very well, married ones give a more poised and calm look and feel as if they are going to say “Should I let him live in this happy bubble for some more time or burst it now?” and the bachelors have their own fun and forget that they will be facing the same situation soon.

More for me personally all these marriage procedures and rituals thereafter are more like ice-breaking sessions for both the individuals, as they would not have known each other very well. Yes sometimes when you look at a picture too closely, you tend to miss the overall gist of it. And then there is the mind that interprets it in each individual’s way. But some where there is an aspect called “Respect”, something we don’t pay much attention to or take it for granted these days.

For the respective individuals...I think both parties should have the same level of understanding and respect if they expect to take their relationship anywhere; plenty of communication and abundant understanding are essential for a relationship. And coming to my night…………………............sssssssssshhhhhhhhh!!!!!. Guess the married one’s know how it is and the bachelors will get to know what it is !!!!